At School Of Dating Magic, much care has been done to formulate the program we coach to Single Men. Such programs are designed through extensive review of the most effective dating and courtship material to date and, of course, from personal experience. Dating is affected by different local elements so it is vital to have personal experience from the local environment to calibrate our programs.

Generally speaking, I am interested to see Singapore Guys who have been 'long term Single' get attached with local girls and experience the fun, confidence and excitement of dating and romance. I am not interested in teaching guys how to cheat on girls, have multiple relationships or three-somes. In short, I am FOR coaching guys on the ways to establish ATTRACTION for getting their desired girl in a meaningful relationship.

From my experience with working in the Singles Industry in Singapore, many Singapore Men have ineffective (notice I use the word 'ineffective' which I will elaborate as below) assumptions in your head about Singapore Ladies. Some of the fatal ones are as below:

1. I am not handsome, good looking enough

2. I am not rich, wealthy enough

3. If I pay for her everything and buy her gifts, she will like me

4. I must be a 'nice' guy and be polite to gain her affections

I use the word 'ineffective' for one simple reason. I am not here to debate or argue with what you think about Singapore Ladies' criteria of their ideal partner. This topic is endless and largely subjective. The above assumptions are ineffective because:

1. You can't do much about your income level and looks in the short run.

2. Being a nice guy and buying her gifts are not the main factors of ATTRACTION.

For Men to be successful in dating with women, they must ATTRACT them, not 'convince them to like you'. Again, from my personal experience, the below are the ENEMIES to Attraction in the Singapore Dating Arena for men:

1. Approval Seeking Behaviour - trying to get the girl to lead by 'making' her make decisions all the time. Girls are emotional beings who like to be led into a wonderful relationship, not 'think' into a relationship.

2. Putting girls on a high pedestal and lowering your own status - trying to get into an attractive girl's good books by complimenting her on her looks and being too obviously attracted to her based on her physical attributes.

3. Revealing your feelings too early - incredibly, I have heard many many many stories of how guys confess their feelings on the 1st or 2nd date. Relax man.... there is not need to reveal your feelings. Like I mentioned before, girls prefer to be led into a relationship.

4. Not knowing how to read Indicator of Interests - Failing to read the vital body language cues that girls constantly give out on whether they are interested in you or not.

5. Being Negative and talking about your Weakness - this is a city-people phenomenon. I think... more so in Singapore due to the competitiveness of our society. Many guys do not feel secure, confident about themselves, and 'leak' out many of their inner issues out to the Singapore ladies on dates. Remember... she is looking for a guy to ATTRACT her, and not to be your mum and sort out your inner issues.

6. Not knowing ATTRACTION principles - this is the BIGGIE. Many guys are simply clueless about the process of how girls are attracted and what they are attracted to. Master ATTRACTION = ACEING your dates!

Don't shoot yourself in the foot by maintaining these ineffective assumptions or wrong ideas about Dating and Attraction.